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The Good, the Bad and the Ugly


Naturally, there are many things that are different about living in Valencia vs. living in Oklahoma. I would like to share with you all a brief list of some of the things I’ve noticed. Granted, these things are only my personal opinions, but I think people would agree with me on quite a few of them! A ver…..


Valencia– 1. There is no concept of time. “I’ll meet you at 3pm”  = “See you at 3.30” 2. Dinner is at 9pm, on average. 3. There are 5 specific meals a day with specific times! (Desayuno, almuerzo, comida, merienda, y cena) 4. Parties don’t start until 1 or 2 am, which means they don’t end until 6 or 7 am

Oklahoma– 1. If you’re late, you call and say “I’ll be there as soon as I can!” 2. Dinner is finished by 8. 30. We don’t get time to have specific “snacks” times at work…. 4. If you go out at 1 or 2 am, you might as well stay home. You can’t do anything past 2!


Valencia– 1. Who works on a Sunday? 2. Who works past 9pm? 3. Who works from 2-5.30? 4. Who works before 8am? 5. “Work to live”

Oklahoma– 1. Walmart, CVS, Walgreens, etc. seem to never close. 2. You can get almost anything at midnight. 3. Prime shopping time is in the early afternoon. 4. Some businesses are open at 7, so you can stop by before YOU go to work. 5. “Live to work”


Valencia– 1. Mediterranean diet….yummy (think olive oil, fish, rice, fruits and veggies)! 2. Families don’t eat out in restaurants on a regular basis. 3. Buuut…I really don’t want to eat a bocadillo (sandwich with french bread) multiple times a week. 4. ORANGES

Oklahoma– 1. The drive-thru is a pretty common place for meals. 2. Barbecue!! 3. Not nearly as healthy as the Mediterranean diet (think butter, ranch dressing, fried foods, red meat) 4. Sometimes we eat because we have to, not because we enjoy the meal.

Some of these observations are good. Some are bad. And to me, some are ugly (are you really going to show up one hour late to a dinner?!) I’m making a list of little things as I notice them. Not always “differences” but just things that strike me as interesting or unusual that maybe a Spaniard wouldn’t think twice about. Also, this is the week of Fallas in Valencia, so expect an update within a week or two all about the wonderful experience and pictures of this awesome festival!

I was not expecting this!


And by this, I mean the COLD! Coming from Oklahoma, where we often have below freezing temperatures, one would think the 30’s (in Fahrenheit) aren’t too bad for February. However, the problem in Valencia is that the older apartments are not properly equipped for several weeks of cold weather. Mi piso only has single paned windows, AKA: it’s the same temperature inside as it is outside. You can imagine how unpleasant this is! I don’t mind the cold when it’s outside. Sure, I don’t like it, but it’s not the end of the world. The problem is when I come home and I still have to wear two layers of clothing! I carry my mini space heater around my apartment with me as if it was a baby. Luckily my mom bought me a blanket (throw, if you will) at the airport that I also carry around with me like the pacifier for my baby. I remember when the weather first started dipping into the 50’s and 60’s in mid-October and I laughed at the Valencians who were wrapped up in scarves and winter coats. I now realize that when you are accustomed to a certain type of weather (warm!) that when it’s below your norm, it’s awful! So no longer will I scoff at those who have winter coats in 50 degree weather! I have become one of them. But the weather is unusually cold for an unusually long time this year. All of Europe is suffering from extreme cold. Northern and Eastern Europe have it way worse, so really I don’t have a lot to complain about.

Of course, this all started the week my best friend came to Spain for my birthday! Coldest temperatures in Valencia for about 7 years…but luckily it never rained and the sun was shining. Could have been worse 🙂 It was so great to show her around the city, introduce her to my friends, and just catch up on life in general. We hit the highlights of the city, including the City of Arts and Sciences, Central Market, the city center, and a few museums. For the weekend of my birthday (4 February) I had a dinner with a lot of friends at a nice Spanish restaurant. We had tapas, bocadillos, sangria, and coffee. It was very delicious! People even gave me presents, which was so nice. That was definitely not expected! I got a beautiful dress and scarf from my favorite store, a nice travel bag and wine, a silly birthday mug, a handmade passport holder and a huge box of chocolates! We went to my apartment after dinner for some wine and two wonderful friends surprised me with a cake and a nice card. Then we all went to a club near the port of Valencia and danced the night away! At one point I looked around, and realized that most of the people I’m friends with in Valencia were all together. I’m happy they all got along and hopefully some new friendships were made.

For my actual birthday (6 February), I had to work, but my best friend took me to lunch! Later that day, we went to my awesome Spanish friend’s house and made dinner. There were 5 of us in total, and my friend gave me some Spanish books, which I had been wanting! One was a Spanish-English slang dictionary and it is absolutely hilarious. We spent a long time reading the translations of words like “bootylicious” and “TGIF”. It wasn’t unusual to not be with my family on my birthday, but to not see them at all was strange. Usually I see them in the beginning of February to celebrate at some point, but this time it was only Skype, emails, and cards. Which are also very appreciated!

It seems that every few weeks I get frustrated with teaching. I know that the kids are learning something, but sometimes I think that they aren’t really paying attention and could care less if they were there. I try and do new things to hold their interest, mixing it up with games, chalkboard teaching, exercises, songs, etc. But there’s always one each class who makes things difficult. It’s nearing the time of their next exam, so I’m trying to prepare them. We will see how they do after the practice exams next week. That helps me know what they need to review or learn more of. As long as they don’t cheat! I always stress that the practice exams aren’t for a grade and it’s to help ME know what I didn’t teach them properly. Some of them realize this, but others still try and cheat just to not get too many answers wrong. But we will see what happens after the actual exams.

I finally started taking Spanish lessons! It does make me realize how hard it can be for students learning another language, because a lot of it is repetition. I have a private teacher who is awesome, and it’s really nice that the lessons are customized to my needs. She knows what I need to learn (which is a lot) but uses each lesson to introduce whatever I need to learn and always gives me homework. I do need to study more on my own though, but slowly I am improving. Every week I am able to understand movies, radio, TV, people, etc. better and that is a good feeling.

Hopefully during the next post, I won’t be wearing two layers of clothing and a blanket! The weather is supposed to be improving and I am waiting anxiously for this to happen. I hope the beginning of February is going well for everyone, wherever you may be! Espero que 2012 es el año es un feliz para todos!


Live life simply.


Today wraps up a very happy week for me. The kids were really good and I can see them learning and putting the things I have taught them to use. That is a great feeling as a teacher! Very satisfying. I want to share my happiness with you via these two things: this beautiful sunset from Barcelona and a song with extremely motivating lyrics. Please watch at least part of it! I promise, you will feel uplifted afterwards.


Keeping with the title of my post, I think sometimes we just need to slow down and appreciate the things we have and live life simply. I want to leave you with this photo and lyrics from the link above.

“Sometimes I lay under the moon and thank God I’m breathing. Then I pray don’t take me soon, cause I am here for a reason”